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  I have spent the last 15 years unlearning capitalism and uncovering its influence on my behaviors and beliefs. I used to be hard on myself about spending money. If I wanted a treat, I’d go through all the ways I could justify my purchase. Then once the money was spent, I’d feel guilty. I...
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If you ask me what’s wrong, I can’t tell you just one thing. I would say, it’s this pandemic, the isolation, the deaths of friends my own age and younger from something we know so little about. It’s the inability to fully grieve. It’s the fear—not holding me hostage—holding me cautiously back. The isolation. Living...
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In 2019, I realized I needed a little help. After a decade of working non-stop and unraveling the reasons behind some of my life choices, I finally felt at peace. My 20s were filled with romantic pursuits, moving across country, working low-wage office jobs, marrying and divorcing, earning a college degree, and starting a new career in a new industry. If I were to assign a theme to my...
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I have never been impacted by the death of a celebrity. Not Big. Not Bankroll Fresh. Not even Peanut the Don. It didn’t move me. Not because it wasn’t tragic, and not because they don’t deserve mourning. It was because I knew their story and I knew how that lifestyle ended. I saw that. I...
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“Bobby* died,” my mother mentioned to me emotionless. She’s always forgetting to tell me someone back home has died. The news usually happens after she mentioned their funeral. “What did you do today?” I might ask. And one of the things on her list will be that she went to so-and-so’s funeral. A moment of...
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“Be intentional.” “Set your intentions.” “Live your life intentionally.” Acting with intention has become a buzz-action of sorts, if I can coin a phrase, here — kinda like self-love being marketed to women as being sure to schedule time for essential oil-filled bubble baths and manicures. And those things are nice and relaxing, don’t get...
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What I want, nearly more than anything is some justice in the world. I was never into pageants, but a Black girl can dream for world peace, right? In my most ideal mind, I want to give so much of myself — my time, energy and resources, to people who need it. But I feel...
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There’s an old photo of me, my mother and my grandmother sitting at a wrought iron table at the old Cafe Du Monde in New Orleans, powdered sugar dusting our toes, sweet beignets caked into our molars. In it, I look happy, my mom looks barely willing to take the picture, and my grandmother glances...
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“What are you sorry for?”, I often ask my girlfriends when I hear them apologizing for things that need no apology. I don’t say this to preach to them or police their way of being, but genuinely exploring their reasoning behind the apologies they so easily give. As the oldest and only brother of five...
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For better or worse, today is Valentine’s Day. Every February 14, we get a mixed bag of reactions to this holiday that happens rain or shine, whether you’re celebrating love or lamenting a loss. But how did we get here? The history of Valentine’s Day is one with no real evidence to support it. Conflicting theories...
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